Overview

As humans sexuality is tied to our identity and often the expression can trigger inner conflicts, wounds and/or insecurities. Our sex lives are personal and the intimate details that drive the sexual dynamics in our relationships are often difficult to understand. Sex is beneficial physiologically in that the chemicals released have great benefits to our mood, heart, and body, but it also it promotes a stronger bond with one’s partner. 

When someone is having difficulty dealing with sexual issues, it can have a devastating impact on one’s relationships, self-esteem, mood, and general quality of life.

Relationships are inextricably tied to our sense of happiness. In romantic relationships sex offers the opportunity to creatively express our basic need for desire and fulfillment. When the sex is in tune, it is associated with relationship stability and increased intimacy. This works to keep people feeling secure and bonded to one another. Think of it as glue for a healthy and happy partnership.

What is sex therapy?

Sex therapy offers individuals or couples the opportunity to discuss issues related to sexual functioning in a safe and nonjudgmental space. It is normal to feel anxious and awkward when talking about sex with a stranger for the first time. We understand the vulnerability one experiences and the need to feel secure and supported in reaching their sexual goals. You will be comforted in knowing that your therapist is comfortable talking about sex, sexually related issues and will you able to provide you with knowledge, techniques and sexual language that will increase your confidence and improve the quality of your intimate experiences. 

What are some of the problems addressed in sex therapy for men?

Erectile dysfunction: Sometimes men experience the inability to get or maintain an erection and this can cause distress for the individual as well as create strain on a relationship. There are several symptoms related to erectile dysfunction that may occur individually or in conjunction with others below:

Premature or uncontrolled ejaculation:

This occurs when the man ejaculates much faster than he would like to more times than not. Officially, vaginal penetration that causes ejaculation within less than one minute. 

Performance anxiety: 

Anxiety can make enjoyment of sexual experiences quite difficult. Concern about the ability to turn-on or pleasure your partner is often at the center of performance anxiety. This can cause difficulty having and sustaining an erection.

Low libido or Loss of sexual desire:

Clients can experience change in desire for sexual connection and intimacy due to a number of reasons including but not limited to physiological changes, life stressors or illness. 

Compulsive impulsive sexual behavior: 

Behavior such as porn addiction, seeking out constant ‘hookups’ or engaging in sexually risky acts can cause significant difficulty forming and maintaining healthy relationships. At times this behavior occurs in conjunction with substance abuse and can lead to deep shame, secrecy and are worsened by anxiety and depression. 

Past abuse or trauma:

Abuse or trauma that has not been addressed can make it difficult to create and maintain healthy relationships. Risk of getting hurt or shame related to trauma can make it challenging to develop intimacy with others.

What Are Some of The Problems Addressed In
Sex Therapy For Women: 

Inability to orgasm:

Some women have never or rarely experience the pleasure of orgasm. This can be quite frustrating for women but can also lead to low self-esteem, anxiety and negativity related to sex. In addition, it can cause conflict or resentment in relationships.

Painful sex:

There  are various factors that can cause painful sex for women. 

Low libido:

Loss of sexual desire can have an impact on various aspects of one’s life. 

Past abuse or trauma 

Couples:

Sex drive differences:

One of the most common challenges couples face

Sex avoidance 

Non-monogamy 

Lack of mutual connection or technique in sexual dynamic

Kink related interests

Types of treatment:

• CBT

• body focused play 

• Sensate focus 

• psychodynamic psychotherapy 

• mindfulness 

• family systems 

• interpersonal